What would life be like if you didn't learn the fundamental "You are NOT the center of the universe" from your siblings right... I mean who else brings you down to size besides your brothers or sisters. They are usually the first to say "I love you but you are NoT all-that". We learn some valuable lessons from our peers: sharing, friendship, disappointment, joy in one another, showing love & many many more!It is so sweet to see my 2 boys interact. Cole waits for Wesley to wake up in the morning. He tries so hard to play with Wesley and actually has learned how to take turns already. Wesley is so attentive and sweet to Cole. He is such a huge help and for the most part is very understanding that Cole is just a baby and is learning. The boys played together flawlessly- I do mean flawlessly, for 10mo, 3 weeks & 4 days (yes i was counting, no really it was just easy to keep track cause the fighting just started) Then one Monday it began!... the fighting. Poor Colie couldn't do anything right in Wesley's eyes. Wesley just saw Cole as a nuisance that wanted to ruin his legos, cars or blocks. I know Cole was thinking "Man my brother is so cool build these towers I can destroy- I have the BEST brother!"
Day 1: "Ha Ha, this is so cute." I found it so amusing that Wesley would get so upset and Cole was just simply having so much fun.
Day 2: Pretty much the same
Day 3: Will I ever get to do anything in the house agian or is my new job 'house referee'?
Day 4 to FORVER: "Just play nice!" "Stop FIGHTING!" (Oh man this is not fun!)
I laughed at myself and the transformation I had during the week. It started so cute and funny and then it was completely opposite.
My favorite "referee" moment of the week was when Cole was taking apart Wesley's legos. Here is the conversation:
"Mom!!!!!... Cole is ruining my legos"
"Wesley, do you think Cole is really ruining your legos or do you think that is how he is trying to play with you right now?"
"No he's ruining them!!"
"Wesley I think he is trying to play and I think he thinks he is playing with you."
"NO, NO, NO!! He thought 'I'm going to disobey my mom and ruin the legos'!"
Ha Ha the logic of a 4 year old. At least some of my talks have soaked in :)
They fight over all the toys, of course Cole thinks whatever Wesley is playing with is for both of them to play with. Cole is so independent though that even one day he was tired of the fighting and went off and played by himself :). It cute and funny to watch right now. It makes me feel more like a parent. They still play really well together and I the peace lasted longer than it does in most houses. I've heard from friends there kids started fighting and I'm thankful for that. The Battle of The Bowers Brothers is just beinging... we aren't even into Chapter 1 yet, I am sure!
